一點點筆記

每週五我去上parenting 的課程
這是市政府辦的免費課程
他們還貼心安排creche- 有特別的工作人員照顧學齡前的兒童
讓父母有完全的時間可以專心上課
creche 裡有許多玩具跟童書 所以噘囉在那裏非常開心
我很喜歡這個課程 每次都從老師或同學(都是媽媽)身上挖到寶

上周主講15分鐘的特別時間
建議父母每天要抽出15分鐘 專心一致的陪小孩
這時間可以是任何時間
可以是下課回家時
可以是晚上睡覺時間前
重點是父母是必須要心無旁鶩
以小孩為中心 跟她聊聊今天發生的事情 或一起作他喜歡的事情

記住 是要做孩子喜歡做的事 而不是你想做的事

如果孩子年紀比較大 就建議每周兩次至少一小時的 special time

重點筆記

1. spend special time with each children -- younger - 15 minutes , older- 1 hour, twice a week
2. no questions, no directions - no criticisms -
Listen to your child
Repeat what your child says
Ask questions to help your child think
Share information about yourself
3. if necessary , have special time when you and your child are already together. ( bath time, riding in the car, walking to school)
4. Adults can trade of having special time with different children
5. if possible, schedule special time at the same time each day
6. tell your child that you want to spend time together because you love him/her

這不是教條 只是幫助經營跟孩子之間的感情
我的同學有的是四個孩子的媽媽 也就是說 她每天要抽空一小時給她的小孩們
爸爸當然有分 因為這是一種感情的維繫方式 是一種你跟孩子之間的時間投資 而不是家事分配
但是如果真的時間不夠用或是孩子數量較多 可以輪流分配時間

我現在利用開車接哲宇的時間當作我們的special time
我們會聊聊今天發生了甚麼事
午餐吃了甚麼 甚至收音機播送的歌曲
我們一起唱著我們兩個都愛的 band - the wanted 的歌曲
哲宇很喜歡我陪他一起唱　他還會教我歌詞


老師給了我們一個文件
spend time not money- 100 free things you can do with your child

我列下我想哲宇會有興趣的部分

conduct kitchen science experiment
watch your child's favorite TV show or movie together
play a video game together
exercise together
help them clean their room
rearrange their bedroom furniture
build Legos together
go to the park
ride bikes
sit outside and look at the stars
eat breakfast together
teach your child how to cook
share memory about you handle conflict or stood up to a bully when you were a kid
visit library
visit a free public museum or garden
bake brownies or cupcakes together
have a tea party
make your own treasure map
make pancakes in the shape of your child's initials
make ice cream floats for dessert
make FAMILY TREE
help your child send an e-mail to a grandparent, aunt or uncle.
write a story together ***
make a special breakfast " just because"
make a slides-show of your favorite digital photos
let your child teach you about something he or she knows or does well
help your child practice a sport he or she enjoys
create memory boxes for your child's favorite pictures, art work and mementos
create a special place in your home for displaying your child's artwork , and let him r her choose what to display there.


老師最後的結論是　給孩子時間　而不是物質　時間是最好的投資　良好的親子關係就是回報